‘I got scared seeing blood mix when my water bag broke,’ shares new mom Dipika Kakar recalling what led to her premature delivery
New mom Dipika Kakar, who is still in the hospital because of her newborn being in the NICU, shared in a new video recalling the night, that led to her premature delivery. Dipika and Shoaib welcomed their baby boy on June 21 and a week later, the former spoke about her delivery journey.
Dipika on deciding to stay back at the hospital
Our house is very far. I want to be with him as much as I can. I go to meet him 4-5 times a day. Had I been at home, it wouldn’t have been possible. That’s why I am still in the hospital. Praying that Chotu gets well soon and comes to me and we go home together.
Bonding with her son through ‘kangaroo care’
I got my best Eidi on the day of Eid. Doctor advised to start the ‘kangaroo touch’. It is basically a method of holding a baby that involves skin-to-skin contact. The baby is placed on my chest so that we connect. I can’t express it in words. When I held him close, he was sleeping, doing some gestures, it was just so overwhelming.
When her water broke
We had returned home after Shoaib’s birthday dinner around at 1.45 am. We changed. I was lying when I felt a gush of water. Before that it would happen that when the baby pushes its head inside, you have no control over your urine. I thought it was that. I went to the washroom and saw it was like water, it was colourless. I felt cramps like when we get during our periods. I felt it for the first time. Shoaib came and I was sharing my experiencing. It happened again and I got a little alert. When I lied down, the water flow increased and I sat straight. I got alarmed as it was unusual. Then when I got up, my dress and the bedsheet looked a bit pinkish. I got scared. I told Shoaib to call the doctor. When I went to clean myself, I saw a few strands of blood on the wipes. I became numb seeing that.
Going to the hospital
Around 3 am, the doctor advised us to come to the hospital and said that the delivery might happen. I felt like crying, I was anxious and several thoughts popped up. I was like, ‘why blood?’ Shoaib saw me and paused for a bit. He told me to calm down and asked for the hospital bag. We had a scan on June 22 so we weren’t ready with a hospital bag. We just left.
Getting assurance from the baby
Dipika recalled talking to her baby when she sat in the car. She shared, “I sat in the car and spoke to the baby asking to give me some kind of movement. I was very scared and then he moved for a bit. Then I composed myself and everyone had told me not to panic during delivery. It is very important for the mom to stay calm and the process becomes easier.”
I kept laughing while going to the hospital
After that in the car, I was in full masti mood. The pain increased in intervals. By the time I reached OT, the pain was in 15 mins gap. The baby’s ECG was done and we learnt that it was normal. I felt relaxed after that. I had many thoughts in my head but kept calm. I was also very happy to see Saba and Sunny present. I always wanted her to be present and they were there.
Wanted Shoaib’s presence in the OT
My contractions kept increasing and doctors advised delivery and then we had to change the hospital too as NICU were not there in the other hospital. My doctor had also come. When I was taken to the OT, Shoaib was sent to change his outfit. I wanted him to be present. I saw my doctor and I just cried because I felt relieved. I just asked her if my baby will be ok. She assured me and said that the baby will be kept in NICU because it was a premature delivery.
Wanted to enjoy the delivery experience
I had decided to enjoy my delivery. I wanted to remember my delivery. I wanted to enjoy the experience. I was so talkative. I was talking, laughing. I kept asking for Shoaib. They call the husband after giving the epidural and covering you with warm clothes. After the epidural, you feel a little dizzy. The anesthetist was very good. Shoaib spoke everything under the sun to keep my mind diverted. When the doctor was about to take out the baby, she asked us to guess the gender. My gut feeling was it will be a boy. We had decided the name already, and I told Shoaib taking his name. That moment of life, you can’t express. The feelings between Shoaib and me, can’t be expressed. He said, “Dipi he is very cute”. He clicked pictures and then the doctor wrapped him in a cover and gave him to me and every moment was just priceless.
Celebrating Eid at the hospital
Since Dipika couldn’t wear a new outfit, she got a shimmery stole for herself. Her mother and Shoaib’s family were present at the hospital. After spending some time with them, other friends of them were also visited later.
Dipika’s message for all the husbands
Dipika said, “At that moment, a husband’s support can match up to nothing. I knew and I could feel how much stressed Shoaib was. But at that point, leaving everything aside, Shoaib was there for me.” Shoaib added, “I was panicking. But hats off to all the ladies, who go through such pain. I thought delivery is a very scary scene. The way Dipika kept laughing throughout her journey, I was thinking later, ‘Achha aise bhi hota hai!’. She was smiling and seeing smile on her face, I would feel relieved. Dono ne milke sambhal liya.”